I Specialize in Making Communication Easy and Helping Couples Break Negative Patterns
Over the last seven years I’ve helped hundreds of struggling couples recover from:
- Conflicts over parenting
- Lack of desire in the bedroom
- Constant arguing and big blowouts
- Holding on to past hurts
- Money issues
And so much more…
It’s possible to end your struggles and have a relationship where you feel safe, secure, and like you can talk about anything. In my work, I see couples open up, re-connect, and find answers to issues that seem unsolvable.
As a trained coach who specializes in creating healthy communication styles and seeing destructive patterns–it’s easy for me to spot the blind spots couples can’t.
In our time together, you’ll learn how to support each other, listen to one-another, enjoy date nights, have fun, parent as a team, appreciate each other, have more sex, laugh more, and be the kind of couple that others want to be.
Early in life, I learned about the heartache that comes when love doesn’t work.
Coming into this world, I was fatherless, and the youngest of three. Life in Medellin, Colombia wasn’t easy. My Mother was 25 years old, addicted to cocaine, and didn’t have any interest in taking care of her three kids.
When I was five years old my Mother was murdered. I was homeless for three years until I was finally adopted.
My life was transformed! I had a Mother, Father, and was surrounded by a loving family in America.
Soon after though, my adopted parents divorced. I was left confused and feeling like I couldn’t rely on love.
I made up my mind that love doesn’t last and turned to spirituality for the connection I was seeking. For nearly a decade, I devoted my life to becoming a monk. My path into spirituality taught me a great deal—But no matter how much I learned there was something missing.
That all changed when I met my first love.
With her I found what I was searching for. I found someone I could be completely authentic and open with and someone who could see all of me. Falling in love was one of the most amazing experiences. It was much more than any meditation or spiritual experience could offer.
Then she broke my heart and left.
Instead of feeling hopeless, I drew from my years immersed in spirituality. I knew that I was in charge of my reality. I engrossed myself in studying relationships.
I devoured books, seminars, videos, and started teaching the work of renowned marriage researchers Drs. John and Julie Gottman. As a Marriage Success Coach and Marriage Education Facilitator for the largest federally funded research project in the US, I fast tracked my understanding of couples.
My passion for helping couples has led me to interview practically every relationship expert in the field. I have been fortunate enough to learn the techniques these experts provide their clients.
One of my interviews was with 19 time Oprah guest, Dr. Harville Hendrix who wrote the book Getting the Love you Want.
The Birth of Lasting Love Connection…
My work comes out of a passion to help others avoid the pains I went through. When we lose love, it’s like a part of us dies—and that pain can cut deeper than any wound.
When we have unhealthy patterns in our relationship, it’s as if we’ve put a kink in our ability to tap fully into the love available.
That’s why I do this—to help couples, their kids, and everyone who is impacted when love doesn’t seem like it’s enough.
It’s my speciality to help couples end negative cycles, and find new ones that work.
Love can be simple. It just takes the right insights, coaching, and methods to avoid the pitfalls that come with being in a relationship.
If You Want Lasting Love, You’re in the Right Place!
Just choose the results you want…
What People Are Saying…
“It wasn’t until we worked with Luis that our relationship started to change for the better.”
“For so long I felt this disconnected with my husband. I tried different ways to connect with him and was failing. We both feel that Luis understood our true relationship issues. Luis didn’t waste any time, we got down to the root of things and were able to learn and practice skills to bring to our relationship. I don’t think words can describe how amazing Luis is. His gifts as a marriage coach are beyond expectations. I don’t think I would be as happy as I am with my husband without the guidance of Luis Congdon”.
“He gave me the tools to enhance my performance as a husband.”
“Luis gave me hope of a better life and future.”
“I came to Luis after I hit a wall in my life. I found myself all alone with no one to blame but myself. But even after I lost myself and had pushed away my family, Luis gave me hope of a better life and future. I would recommend Luis to anyone who is struggling to find themselves and their happiness.”
“Let me save you the trouble of navigating through uncharted waters in search of an outstanding couples coach and highly recommend Luis.”
“Okay counseling in general and particularly couples counseling are incredibly personal and, for some, can be potentially a very scary endeavor. For me, just the thought of searching and identifying a competent counselor was a daunting task. Let me save you the trouble of navigating through uncharted waters in search of an outstanding couples coach and highly recommend Luis. He teaches skills that are applicable immediately and promote positive feedback for notably improved communication. His effectiveness through role playing will leave an immediate impact as well. We are both thoroughly impressed!”
“Luis helped me see that I really am doing a great job as a Mother and everything is going to be alright.”
“Luis helped me get perspective. It’s hard raising two teenage daughters, Luis helped me see that I really am doing a great job as a Mother and everything is going to be alright. I hated asking for help, but getting support made things so much easier. I am blessed to be surrounded by amazing people.”
“If you’re truly ready for a positive change, then I highly recommend reaching out to Luis…”
“Luis’s coaching style is dynamic and authentic! Each one of our meetings was filled with fresh perspective, well given praise and wise guidance. If you’re truly ready for a positive change, then I highly recommend reaching out to Luis Congdon. He’s the real deal!”
“We were able to feel safe enough with each other to communicate openly and clearly and to ask for what we needed.”
“Luis’ ability to stay present, to tune into, and identify our old relational patterns was spot on. He quickly helped us recognize our blind spots. We were able to feel safe enough with each other to communicate openly and clearly and to ask for what we needed. That was invaluable as we move forward.”
“Luis was confident, calm, attentive, very caring, yet very honest, blunt and with little held back.”
“Luis has really helped me. I love that he didn’t simply give instructions or advice but mostly just brought awareness to our patterns, taking turns putting attention on each of the partners and mirroring their behavior. It was both real and easy to hear. It didn’t feel like he was holding back but the message was delivered very tactfully with love and compassion. I’ve felt for some time that an outside perspective was needed in order to get through some rough stuff in my relationship and I’m so happy Luis was the one to do it. He felt incredibly trustworthy because he wasn’t just shoving info down my throat. Luis was confident, calm, attentive, very caring, yet very honest, blunt and with little held back. I could tell he was there to help and not just make us feel good. He didn’t give us an easy answer, just some great tools for us to use on our own.”
“My Husband is a different person, he is a lot more attentive”
“We have been using our new skills and our communication is completely different. We could never thank Luis enough for how much he helped us. We definitely still have our moments, but we manage to work through them a lot faster than we used to. We have not had any what we call “blowouts”. My husband is a different person in so many ways. He is a lot more attentive and when he gets upset and starts to overpower the room, he recognizes it now. I have learned to let him feel his feelings and not take care of him so much. I feel so much more free now, and he does too. We cannot thank Luis enough, I really do not know where our relationship would be if he did not come into our lives. Luis has helped us so much and we will forever be grateful.”
“Luis is the best one out there.”
“Luis has changed my life. He has helped me clear my mind and has given me the necessary tools to rebuild my confidence, self-esteem, and feel more motivated. It was hard to find a good coach. In my opinion, Luis is the best one out there.”
Abraham, Father of Two
“Luis pulled all our patterns out and laid them out for us to see so we could stop repeating them.”
“I think of counselor and I think; Great, another person to say ‘maybe this relationship isn’t healthy and you should focus more on yourself.’ I was so afraid of the idea of my partner and I talking to Luis about our relationship because, the truth was…we needed help. We were in an agonizing, constant cycle. To be honest, I was in denial but felt almost helpless and couldn’t think of a better option. Luis has an accepting presence about him right off the bat. He brought such a nice mixture of humor and professionalism to the session, because after all, our “problems” became laughable after mulling over the reasons why we do what we do. Luis made everything so clear, I don’t know how but he really reflected all of our feelings back to us, as if he were a two way mirror. Luis pulled all our patterns out and laid them out for us to see so we could stop repeating them. What came out of our work with Luis is: Acceptance of change and growth, super clear understanding of what each of us wants in the relationship, and most of all a new appreciation for one another on our journeys side by side. Thank you so much Luis for the guidance, gentleness and pure openness you have shown us in our most vulnerable times.”
“My relationship is stronger than it has ever been and growing everyday!”
“I had been struggling with acceptance and misguided emotional responses in my relationship with my partner. Luis listened to me, found the compassion necessary to understand my pain and helped guide me to a place of peace in myself and to find that love that transcends my complete understanding. No other human being has ever had such an effect on my psyche. My relationship is stronger than it has ever been and growing everyday!”
“He helped me through one of the hardest times of my life…”
“From the first time I saw Luis I knew there was something up with him, something really good. I felt comfortable with him almost immediately and confided in him entirely. He helped me through one of the hardest times of my life, and made every day feel spiritual to me. He taught me how to live it up, instead of down. Best person I think I’ve ever met, hands down.”
“Helped us bridge those gaps in a moment of crisis…”
“Recently, when one of my teens started to have some issues with risky behaviors and self-identity, I contacted Luis both for advice and to reach out to my son. Luis responded right away and was able to engage with him in a way that we as his parents couldn’t. He helped him verbalize some of his feelings and frustrations and worked with him to come up with strategies to make positive changes. He helped us understand some of the ways we could help our son too, while maintaining his confidentiality. He really helped us bridge those gaps in a moment of crisis and continues to be a mentor and coach to our son.”
Margaret Kramer, Social Worker
“People felt inspired to connect more deeply with themselves, others and their life path after working with Luis!”
“Luis led several workshops at a conference I helped organize. He was fabulous! He helped us kick off the conference in a heart-centered way that really played out over the weekend – it was notably one of the more peaceful, friendly and connected gatherings we have had. We received many positive reviews of his workshops – people felt inspired to connect more deeply with themselves, others and their life path after working with Luis!”
Amanda Aylin, Program Director
“Luis is a stupendous couples’ coach.”
“I met Luis Congdon when we both worked as couples’ coaches for the Loving Families program. During coaching sessions, we worked on the couples’ desired goals. The interaction provides a space to listen, answer and ask questions so that couples are clear about what you want. We also addressed limits or blocks, identifying obstacles and helped move couples toward taking action. As coaches we provided any needed parenting education and provided referrals and recommendations to community resources. In addition, we kept a written summary of each coaching session. Luis is a stupendous couples’ coach.”
Fely Oropeza, Benefits Coordinator at Milliman
“He invests his heart into his work, and because of this you will have no problem seeing his authenticity.”
“I have had the distinct pleasure of hiring and collaborating with Luis on a wide array of projects for the last 5 years. He has brought such a unique and wonderful energy to all these ventures. I remember his passion and ability to focus the most. It was very reassuring. It’s really special that Luis has an unique ability to work with such a wide range of demographics; everywhere from big groups, to individuals or couples. Including workshops at elementary schools, to teenage mothers groups, to high level professionals, including interviewing several New York times best seller author, and celebrities. It is also important to note that Luis is very careful as to who and what he works on. If he is passionate about a project or goal I would want him on my team. He invests his heart into his work, and because of this you will have no problem seeing his authenticity.”
“My depression has lifted and my business is taking off, the way I interact with others has changed.”
“I am deeply touched by Luis’s care and ability to assist me in moving forward. I have done a lot of traditional counseling and am well aware of why I have emotional blocks but I was still stuck with some old patterns & depression. Luis is quickly facilitating the shift I need to feel strong and whole when dealing with others in all my relationships business, personal & spiritual. Each session we focus on an aspect that is troubling me to shift it to another viewpoint with a commitment to follow through. My depression has lifted and my business is taking off, the way I interact with others has changed. I highly recommend him to others wanting healing and a fresh breeze in their lives. He is much more than a coach and I am honored to be working with him.”